Friday, September 23, 2011

Change to blog site

Dear Followers,
I have recently updated my profile and am now posting on my new blogsite at wordpress. I hope you will come over and join me there.

Thursday, July 21, 2011

Forgiveness a path to freedom

Forgiveness – a path to freedom

I was aware there were people in my life that I needed to forgive as a way of moving forward and living a more meaningfully and authentically version of my life and letting go of what has been so what wants to be can be.

I believe forgiveness is an act of self love and by facing and forgiving those challenging and painful areas of my life I am free to be me more fully and at a deeper level.

Some of those I needed to forgive are very close to me or have been and one particular relationship I was very scared to look at

For fear of what I may uncover, however it was time.

Here is my version of a forgiveness ceremony – I share this as a framework for you to create your own unique version.

“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” Catherine Ponder

Forgiveness Ceremony – to be performed in nature if possible- I was by the beautiful Jindabyne Lake in Australia.

You will need – paper and pen –

Sit quietly and bring your awareness to your breath – centre yourself and ask yourself “what is my deepest truth about ……………… (The person or people you are to forgive), keep asking that question until information comes; I usually know I am in the deepest truth when I begin to feel emotion, trust yourself to know this point.

Taking your pen and paper – write – Dear ………… (the person you are wanting to forgive) and write no editing – write until you can not write anymore, write until forgiveness comes. If you don’t feel like you can forgive the person, there is more to get off your chest. For some, this may take more that one session. Once you have reached forgiveness write a second letter this time writing – Dear …… I forgive you………………., simple allow what ever needs to come, come.

After you have completed this process – its now time to forgive yourself – take another piece of paper and write a letter to yourself – Dear Me – I forgive you ……………

When this is complete close your eyes and notice how your body is feeling.

Give yourself an inner hug to acknowledge what you have bravely achieved and give thanks for your beautiful surroundings and you may like to set an intention for yourself. An example of an intention might be ‘even though …… doesn’t understand the way I choose to live my life, I appreciate them in my life and I love them as they are”.

I usually like to play a beautiful piece of music at this point to close my ceremony and then sit and observe for a little while – nature just may offer you a gift – like 13 black swans gliding by!

I would love to hear of your own experience if that feels appropriate.

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Meaningful Abundance: Mind Your Language

Meaningful Abundance: Mind Your Language: "What a wee little part of a person's life are his acts and his words! His real life is led in his head, and is known to none but himself. M..."

Mind Your Language

What a wee little part of a person's life are his acts and his words! His real life is led in his head, and is known to none but himself.
Mark Twain

Are you aware of how powerful your language is? Do you realise the effect it has on the life you are creating?

Becoming aware of the words that we continually utter to ourselves and speak out loud, has a huge effect on the life we are creating.

How often are we striving to achieve a certain outcome, be it success in business, health or love, and we just don’t hit the results you truly desire – it could be our choice of words? Yes our choice – we can choice more empowering, life enhancing words.

I have often heard people say things like “I am sick and tired off…..” “I can’t afford that”, “I don’t have a choice” “my boss never…..” and they wonder why life feels like such a struggle. If only we chose to become acutely aware of the words that leave our lips and the constant chatter in our minds we can positively change our results.

When we find ourselves caught up in the challenges of life, the words that we choose to express those difficulties has an effect. I have also been paying close attention to the songs that are on repeat in mind – when I notice I am singing (in my mind) words that are not affirming of the life I choose to live, I immediately change the tune to a more empowering one.

It goes to say that repeatedly talking about the things we are not happy with in our lives also keep that drama alive. “What we focus on is what we continue to bring about” so why not focus and speak of that which we desire.

Are you minding your language?

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Change – Is it your friend or Foe?

“Be the Change You Want To See In the World” Mahatma Gandhi

“People don’t like change” is a very common saying – I’m not sure I agree.

Of course, some people don’t like change. I’m sure we can all relate to that older member of our family that likes things to be just as they always have been, grumbling at the slightest change, wanting everyone to conform to their way of doing things.

Change doesn’t have to be labelled as bad ,there are definitely many benefits of change. For instance If we resisted change completely we wouldn’t have this wonderful way of communicating with each other via the internet, we wouldn’t be open to new resources to bring balance to our earth, we would not have been open to solar power, what about the seasons and many more new ways of being. Often the resistance to change is due to the fear of the unknown, however if we want to create an amazing life for ourselves, our family, our community we must embrace change regularly and constantly.

“If I’d asked people what they wanted, they would have asked fore a better horse” Henry Ford.

When contemplating how I deal with change I realise there are some forms of change I embrace and even welcome whilst others I resist stubbornly.

I have been paying particular attention to my responses to change and have found that overall I view change as my friend and take that as a sign that I am growing and being more of what I want to see in the world.

I have experienced a relatively large amount of change over the past 12 months and it has been, at times incredibly uncomfortable and even difficult to see my way forward on some days however, I have continued to explore and discover more about myself through the lens of “am I being the change I want to see?” I am happy to report that I have chosen to see the opportunity in the changes as my launching pad into a fuller more empowered way to live. Because of this I purposefully don’t allow myself to always sit at the same seat in my favourite cafĂ© and look for opportunities to do the little tasks in different ways however what I don’t change is the vision I have for my future, I may need to course correct and look for new ways to create the outcomes I desire but my vision is clear and that wont change.

How do you Feel about Change?

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Opportunity brings adversity

Today’s blog is a side bar to the Napoleon Hill inspired Success Principle. The reason for this side bar is that in my experience once we get clear about our desires and start to take actions to move towards achieving them it is to be expected that when opportunities start to show up, there is adversity that comes with those opportunities. For example if your goal is to get fit, you are going to have to embrace and change any out dated habits that are holding you back from achieving your goal. If you want financial freedom then you are going to have to look closely at past decision, take responsibility for those decisions and then set about making the necessary changes to make wiser, better informed chooses.

There is a great quote that says “if you want to own a horse you are going to have to shovel a reasonable amount of manure”.

Through out my life I have come to realise that adversity comes in all shapes and colours and a variety of intensity – what I also know is that the tools to deal with most adversity are the same. It is about taking ownership – not blaming, yourself or others, feel the emotions (not get stuck in them) and then set about taking the steps to doing what you can to make the changes needed to achieve your goal. I have often found the first step of embracing what needs to be done one of the more challenging, however once in action the universe seems to support the process.

Let me share an example – recently a young man in my youngest sons circle of friends was killed in a car accident, an absolute trategy and of course his group of friends were absolutely devastated. I was completely inspired to witness my son show real leadership by organising an afternoon get together for the group of friends so they could share memories. This group of school friends hadn’t been together for quite a while and through this adversity they are reunited and supportive of each other.

Have you experienced your own version of opportunity brings adversity and how was that for you?

Friday, May 20, 2011

Meaningful Abundance: Faith - The Second Principle

Meaningful Abundance: Faith - The Second Principle: "Today I am going to talk about Faith and the important technique of visualisation. What is Faith? Napoleon Hill describes faith as “the h..."